It's so strange...mine never verbalized it as fully as yours, Angelstar, but I think if he'd heard yours say it, he would have been in violent agreement! He kept track on his phone, worried our relationship was suffering if we weren't keeping up with our own statistics, even if there were extenuating circumstances.
And mine was creative. He knew I had a libido and he got this phrase stuck in his head that I "needed sex" (I think we had similar drives, I certainly wasn't some nympho like he thought I was). So if we didn't have it as often as he thought I needed it, he'd act like he didn't trust me. He'd push the issue frenetically, we'd better hurry and have sex or he wouldn't be able to believe I wasn't getting it somewhere else. Then sometimes he'd pick fights and because we hadn't been able to have sex because of the fights he couldn't trust me then, either, even though he was the reason we weren't having any.
So I ended up having sex with him more than I needed, just to prove to him I wasn't getting it elsewhere. Physically this was okay, as our compatibility was one reason I had been drawn to him, but he made the whole thing such a psychological/emotional issue that my libido eventually drained away. It's been months and I still don't desire it.
I remember the rules. I remember trying to follow them and getting them wrong. I remember mentioning the rules and hurting his feelings and/or making him mad because his ex-wife complained about his "rules" and now I sounded like her. And this, of course, reflected badly on me, not him.
I'm so sorry you're low. I hope you can be truly gone from it soon.
