On walking into a local senior citizens club here a huge sign smacks you in the face.
Be nice to your children, one day they will choose your rest home.
Very appropriate for some parents I think
This touches a nerve for me.
My (asperger?) dad, well in his 80's, is obviously struggling with his health and living on his own.
We, as kids, wish him the best, and the best care. He sit's on tons of money. But he's a miser. He keeps saying "I can't spend all of my retirement pay" (thus, he's still 'saving').
He refuses any help. From us, or from professionals who could provide him with daily assistance ($$$, probably), so he can stay home, and die in peace in his own home. Everything is "fine" even though it obviously isn't (he can't, at times, even button up his trousers or shirt).
So there's a good chance that at some point he's found in his house, unable to care for himself. He will then be rushed to the nearest retirement home that has a 'bed' available.
I dread this outlook. He could afford anything his heart desires. But when it will have become an emergency, he'll probably be stuck. If not for burocratic reason, then certainly because he'll then claim "everything's fine" as well
I just so hope he 'just dies', and will not get incapacitated more somehow.