Id like to turn this question to ourselves a bit: how sel-aware are we? Are we aware we are/ were doormats? Fixers? Are we aware we were abused? Are we aware we had put up with too much for a normal person?Like us, the ammount of awareness depends, I think. Also, the time we took to be fully aware. I can say that some are never aware. They spend their lifetime in the fog. Why? Cause either they dont see it or either dont want to see it, its paying off somehow. In that sense, its similar to PDs. Most are very confortable in their current situation, so why look inside? Why think abt change? Makes no sense.I read that most Cluster B PDs never go to therapy. Or if they go, its cause they are pushed/ threatened by family. Most of the times they go, they do that to please the others and keep the status quo, not to change.