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Narcissism in action ... an amusing story

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EmptyInsideUK:
Sometimes, we are able to laugh at how predictable the behaviour patterns are of our PD partners.  Today, after a rather difficult weekend with my uN/AsPD h, he sent me a text message that made me laugh at just how typically NPD his behaviour can be.

I am not laughing at HIM, I am laughing at the behaviour.  I know it is is not something he has a whole lot of insight into, and something he doesnt have much control over and I am not belittling him as a person when I laugh, but I can't help chuckle at this prime example of NPD at its best/worst.

I am a keen amateur photographer, and I have started being noticed in photo competitions and stock photography companies.  I may not be accomplished like many other photographers, but I get a great deal of pleasure from it.  It was our wedding anniversary recently (not going to go off topic here, even though it is tempting!) and I took my camera along for our 2 days of sightseeing in the North of England that we had planned.

I have put my landscapes on my photo web page, but the personal photos of us stay unpublished.  I emailed him earlier this evening, with the link to the photo page and I attached the 4 nice photos of him.

His response was to send me a text message saying thank you for sending the photos ... and then saying he needs to get a new hairstyle!!!

Ummm I burst out laughing because it is such a blatantly narcissistic comment to make as the first opinion of the photos.  He did subsequently compliment me on my ever improving skill with the camera, and made reference to one of the places we had been, so I am giving him credit for that.

I know NPD sufferers put themselves first, they are the centre of their universe ... but it was just rather amusing to see it "in action" so to speak :)

I hope those who read this enjoy the humour in this and take it in the spirit in which it was intended :)

FinallyWokeUp:
Story of my life right there.

I used to say to my stbxNH, "Back to you in the studio, _____."  Just like a newscaster because everything came right back to him no matter what it was about.

Thanks for sharing.

runningonempty:
Lol

Sounds like you were expecting a positive comment about the link and the landscape portraits!  He didn't say anything and obviously that was disappointing. I know how that feels, when positive reinforcement is not forthcoming from our spouse.

About his comment about his hair though,  forgive me but I'm gonna  play a little devil's advocate here and say that many of us react the same way when we see pictures of ourselves sometimes. When we see pictures of ourselves we often focus on how we look in the pictures. In wedding pictures of a family or friend's wedding, I might say something like "ooh gosh I look fat in that picture'.  That doesn't necessarily make my comment narcissistic lol, or mean that I don't recognise the wedding in the pictures :)

So ask him what he thinks about the link and the professional pictures!

EmptyInsideUK:
thanks FinallyWokeUp and runningonempty for reading and enjoying the humour :)  I know I often get caught up in the drama of my h's PD ... so being able to have a little chuckle is a welcome release :)

runningonempty ... I can fully accept and understand how most people (both PD and non's) perhaps dont like how they look in a photo and make a comment about changing hairstyles or losing weight, wearing different clothes etc without being NPD :)  I thank you for your down to earth input :)

As I wrote in the original post, he did compliment me on the other photos ... so that was most welcome. 

I just find it amusing that most normal people would first say "oh thats a nice picture" or "that brings back memories" etc, but the Narcissist has to comment on themself first, and then make reference to the rest of the photo/s afterwards, like an afterthought.

And for the record, I agree he needs a new hairstyle.  Lol!  ;D

Bella4:
LOL thank you for sharing :)

Was just remembering today that last year, for my birthday, my NPD dad (a blues musician) gave me...  Guess what?  A complete set of his remastered albums and a documentary about himself.  Then he called me every day for two weeks to see if I had watched it. 

Happy birthday to me!

Maybe we should start a Funny Narcissist Stories thread...  LOL

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