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EmptyInsideUK

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Narcissism in action ... an amusing story
« on: July 24, 2012, 05:30:19 PM »
Sometimes, we are able to laugh at how predictable the behaviour patterns are of our PD partners.  Today, after a rather difficult weekend with my uN/AsPD h, he sent me a text message that made me laugh at just how typically NPD his behaviour can be.

I am not laughing at HIM, I am laughing at the behaviour.  I know it is is not something he has a whole lot of insight into, and something he doesnt have much control over and I am not belittling him as a person when I laugh, but I can't help chuckle at this prime example of NPD at its best/worst.

I am a keen amateur photographer, and I have started being noticed in photo competitions and stock photography companies.  I may not be accomplished like many other photographers, but I get a great deal of pleasure from it.  It was our wedding anniversary recently (not going to go off topic here, even though it is tempting!) and I took my camera along for our 2 days of sightseeing in the North of England that we had planned.

I have put my landscapes on my photo web page, but the personal photos of us stay unpublished.  I emailed him earlier this evening, with the link to the photo page and I attached the 4 nice photos of him.

His response was to send me a text message saying thank you for sending the photos ... and then saying he needs to get a new hairstyle!!!

Ummm I burst out laughing because it is such a blatantly narcissistic comment to make as the first opinion of the photos.  He did subsequently compliment me on my ever improving skill with the camera, and made reference to one of the places we had been, so I am giving him credit for that.

I know NPD sufferers put themselves first, they are the centre of their universe ... but it was just rather amusing to see it "in action" so to speak :)

I hope those who read this enjoy the humour in this and take it in the spirit in which it was intended :)

FinallyWokeUp

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Re: Narcissism in action ... an amusing story
« Reply #1 on: July 24, 2012, 05:55:07 PM »
Story of my life right there.

I used to say to my stbxNH, "Back to you in the studio, _____."  Just like a newscaster because everything came right back to him no matter what it was about.

Thanks for sharing.

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Re: Narcissism in action ... an amusing story
« Reply #2 on: July 24, 2012, 06:01:42 PM »
Lol

Sounds like you were expecting a positive comment about the link and the landscape portraits!  He didn't say anything and obviously that was disappointing. I know how that feels, when positive reinforcement is not forthcoming from our spouse.

About his comment about his hair though,  forgive me but I'm gonna  play a little devil's advocate here and say that many of us react the same way when we see pictures of ourselves sometimes. When we see pictures of ourselves we often focus on how we look in the pictures. In wedding pictures of a family or friend's wedding, I might say something like "ooh gosh I look fat in that picture'.  That doesn't necessarily make my comment narcissistic lol, or mean that I don't recognise the wedding in the pictures :)

So ask him what he thinks about the link and the professional pictures!

EmptyInsideUK

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Re: Narcissism in action ... an amusing story
« Reply #3 on: July 24, 2012, 06:17:11 PM »
thanks FinallyWokeUp and runningonempty for reading and enjoying the humour :)  I know I often get caught up in the drama of my h's PD ... so being able to have a little chuckle is a welcome release :)

runningonempty ... I can fully accept and understand how most people (both PD and non's) perhaps dont like how they look in a photo and make a comment about changing hairstyles or losing weight, wearing different clothes etc without being NPD :)  I thank you for your down to earth input :)

As I wrote in the original post, he did compliment me on the other photos ... so that was most welcome. 

I just find it amusing that most normal people would first say "oh thats a nice picture" or "that brings back memories" etc, but the Narcissist has to comment on themself first, and then make reference to the rest of the photo/s afterwards, like an afterthought.

And for the record, I agree he needs a new hairstyle.  Lol!  ;D

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Re: Narcissism in action ... an amusing story
« Reply #4 on: July 24, 2012, 08:02:52 PM »
LOL thank you for sharing :)

Was just remembering today that last year, for my birthday, my NPD dad (a blues musician) gave me...  Guess what?  A complete set of his remastered albums and a documentary about himself.  Then he called me every day for two weeks to see if I had watched it. 

Happy birthday to me!

Maybe we should start a Funny Narcissist Stories thread...  LOL

EmptyInsideUK

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Re: Narcissism in action ... an amusing story
« Reply #5 on: July 26, 2012, 08:10:16 PM »
Oh wow, Bella4 .. what a present!  Geeez I wonder if they realise how unsympathetic they are to our special day or special circumstance.

It was our wedding anniversary recently and he bought me a bright yellow (secondhand) sports car.  Talk about an over the top NPD gift ... It was just under a week before he started calling it "his" car ... despite it being my anniversary present.  Suddenly, it has become a present for "us" and all he can talk about is how much he gets noticed when driving it and how many people have complimented him on the car. 

 :spaceship:

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Re: Narcissism in action ... an amusing story
« Reply #6 on: July 27, 2012, 02:00:37 PM »
Oh, Bella!  That is so funny.   :yes:
When my SO goes to visit friends and family he can't wait to tell me, first thing, how happy everyone was to see him!  Hehe...
You're all right.  We have to laugh at it.  It's so much better than losing our minds over it.   :tongue2:
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Re: Narcissism in action ... an amusing story
« Reply #7 on: July 30, 2012, 12:56:53 PM »
You had to see the freak I'm dating dysregulate this weekend with his narcissism.  I thought of this forum and wished there was a hidden camera somewhere so you all could crack up. 

I suggested to the bf that we rearrange his large bedroom to better accomadate his office desk furniture that's arriving this week.  So after much back and forth, he decided (my idea he took credit for) that we should move everything around.  The furniture is heavy as hell.  Large king sized cannon ball post bed.  Large armoire.  Gun cabinet falling apart.  So the bed was moved, as we moved it without taking off the mattress and springs because that would make too much sense and was my suggestion, the leg on it fell off and fell down the floor heating duct.  He couldn't reach it to pull it out.  Then the armoire I told him to empty.  It's very big to match the bed.  I also asked if it came apart from the base.  He did not want to empty it, and said it was all one peice.  As we moved it, the top cracked off it's brackets which attached it to the base.  All the clothes came flying out onto the floor.  The wood splintered on the corner due to the top breaking off.  Now can I just add that I'm the daughter of an Engineer.  I think I know how to move things after living with my father for 49 years.  There's a better way of moving furniture with less physical energy expended on my part.  You had to see all his screaming, verbal abuse, "F" bombs, etc.  I wanted to laugh but after listening to his crap for some time, I was getting tired of it and about ready to leave him in all the mess.  I finally told him to shut the "F" up, get moving, or I was leaving, in a loud voice.  I had better things to do on a Saturday.  He looked at me like I was the crazy one and told me to calm down.  Now that's a joke right there.

Then the broken down gun cabinet started falling apart as I touched it.  I asked if we could get rid of it, but he said it was sentimental.   So keep the piece of crap cabinet forever????  Whatever.  it's his house.  I then rearranged some of the stuffed, dead animals he has on his LR wall by putting them up in the BR in a better pattern.  It ended up looking fantastic.  He apologized.  But never again.  It was comical in the end but tiresome when I was in the midst of it.  And in the end, he took credit for the idea of rearranging the BR to better fit the desk being delivered (that he did not measure for).  And I'm sure the desk is big because everything he does has to be big, the best, and he notifys me of what the price was. 

My back and legs are tired.  I took Motrin Sunday and today.  And can I add that he has 2 grown sons , 20 and 24, that were not around as usual when anything physical needs to be done.  I made sure I brought that to his attention. 
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