I'm so happy for you!
This is a major step!
For me I reached this place when I realized: It was never about me. I was simply in the wrong place at the wrong time, simply was born to parents who were unable to be parents. It was so liberating to realize I did nothing wrong, and there was nothing I could have ever done to make it right and I didn't deserve any of it, not the lack of unconditional love nor any of the drama, chaos, FOG et cetera. Now instead of focusing on the past, trying to make sense out of it, I'm free to focus on the future, on how to grow, make sure I don't repeat any of the old patterns, iron out some fleas and learn to simply be myself.
Strange coincident I only saw this post today, because last night I thought of my M and felt sad for her and for F too, because neither of them was able to ever experience unconditional love, not because they didn't get it from their children, but they could not process it emotionally, as if they were "lactose" intolerant to that feeling. (I don't know about their childhoods, I think they had average parents for their time, and both came from close knit families.)