« Last post by Souz on Today at 04:47:52 PM »
About a year ago we began to talk about moving away. At first the idea would give me some relief. I would look at real estate listings across the country and imagine living free from all of the drama my mom creates. But every time we gave it any serious consideration, I would get so anxious about what it would take to cut our ties here and I always ended up coming to the conclusion that if the thought of it was that difficult, doing it would be way too stressful.
Over the last year, each time we discuss it, it becomes less scary. Over the last couple of weeks, I think we have essentially made the decision that we will move. I contacted a Realtor where we plan to move to, we have booked some holiday time out there to get a better feel for it, I contacted my accountant to find out tax implications of beginning to sell off some of our real estate here and last night, I told my business partner - that was a big one. She was very supportive and we created a tentative plan for the management of our company with the move. It is all happening so quickly, and it feels good. It also feels sad in many ways, and I will have a hard time to let go of home, but I also feel excited to create a new home somewhere we can feel more free.
Any positive move stories out there? My hope is that with the distance, we could allow a very strict and minimal amount of contact with my mom. I would like to allow her to FaceTime with our daughter and have a supervised visit once or twice a year when we come to town. We would not share any information with them about our address or phone number and returning to NC would only take shutting off an iPad and closing down a PO box (we would open a PO box specifically for mail from them to keep our address private). I feel like my mom is capable of maintaining something healthier if she is not given enough rope to hang herself. I feel like it is the kindest thing we could do, provide a safe, low risk form of contact that is constantly supervised and monitored. Thoughts?