« Last post by hhaw on Today at 03:44:01 PM »
It seems like your stbx has been communicating with your while referring to the parenting agreement, using it to his advantage, etc?
It would be good IME to organize all your e mails and whatever communications you can document, then forward the ones showing the PD had the parenting agreement to your attorney.
Organize your evidence, all of it, by subject as it makes sense to you.... do it sooner than later, IME, so you know what you have, and can find it when Court looms or your attorney needs it to leverage a settlement if that's possible at all.
PDs tend to be pathologically unable to settle anything without a Court doing it for them....
that means be prepared to go to trial to settle everything.
That means he'll likely drag out settlement discussions, cost you a lot of attorney fees and anxiety doing that, then refuse to sign and demand a trial anyway.
don't contact the PD, ever, or respond outside e mails ever.... never ever ever that you can help, IME.
Don't send anything to anyone except maybe proof to your attorney that the stbxPD indeed is lying about not having the parenting agreement, IMO.
DO hold your stbx pd accountable for failing to produce documents under court order. I believe that will be contempt, and should be filed forthwith, no hesitation, but your attorney will have more information.
Just remember that attorneys have a template to follow that extends time, expands proceedings, and makes them lots of money.
DO you have enough money to get through a trial? Think about that and remind your attorney, very gently, that you need to have resources to get through a trial. You can't spend all your money being jerked around by a mentally unstable person who doesn't have your child's best interests in mind.
You have to be proactive, and move forward towards a trial if that's your quickest way out of this divorce, and TO peace and a normal life for your children, IME.
Be very calm. Don't tell your attorney what to do, but state facts very calmly, maybe like you;re speaking to a 3yo so you can keep very calm at all times, and remember your attorney works for you. He's a tool... ahem... literally he's doing a job for you... I'd send e mails to him stating in very few words what your needs are....
to get out of the divorce quickly for hte children's sake.
Always always always refer to the children/'s best interests, and stay calm. State facts. Don't raise your voice, or get upset or speak as though you have expectations.
State facts, without expectation, and let your listeners come to their own conclusions.
You need to provide a stable life for your children, and you need to be able to protect them during visitation with their father....don;t ever refer to his as PD or mentally ill.... rather use details and evidence to do that for you.
Don't make statements you can't back up with evidence either... it tends to backfire and make us look unstable esp when it's about PD crazy, IME.