« Last post by NotAlice on Today at 05:01:43 PM »
Hi FHL! When you wrote that your H froze when cornered by his Nmom, that really struck a chord with me. I have a similar reaction to emotional stress. I can't keep my train of thought so I can't keep up the discussion, so the other person can say, "See, it was nothing," or something similar, and walk away. It's very frustrating. Does this happen to your H, too? If so, I think it's great that you step in to help him out, but it could look like you're pulling his strings. His FOO know how to push this button, whether they are doing it on purpose or not, and don't like you overriding their control.
If this is the case, then a video chat could be a problem. Push the right/wrong button and I'd agree to anything just to get away, then kick myself afterwards. I have had better luck with typed convos, also available on skype. The other person doesn't see if I'm crying, a big plus, or walking around or whatever. If we get off topic, I can review and get back on. I can make sure I've made my point. I can look at my words before they go out.
It sounds like MIL and SIL refuse to believe their doormat is standing up for himself, so you must have taken control of him now. What an insult to both of you! I understand that your H wants sis to see his face with the words coming out of his mouth. He should do it if he wants, but she may not be convinced, especially if he has notes. My advice would be for H to talk about this with his T, and learn how to deal with the pressure and manipulation.