Thank you so much for your recent email shooting down my request for a schedule change so that I could take our DS3 on a summer vacation -- which I did last year, and which you suggested we do every year, camping and playing with his cousins for a few days, and which now will be cut short thanks to you. It's always fun and interesting to hear your thoughts.
Like how, although you have literally called my mental fitness into question at every chance you get and then some, with your lawyer even making snide comments right in open, public court in front of the judge about how "I must be off my meds again," during our custody fight, you nevertheless allow me to spend so much time raising our son while you are busy building your fledgling business. This includes hours upon hours of time alone with our son every week, overnights with just him and me at relatives' homes, and out-of-state vacations with just him and me lasting several days.
It's SO interesting, because if I thought my son were being exposed to someone crazy for the majority of his time, I would work my hardest to limit my son's time with that person, not ask that person to spend even more time with him so that I could work or do other things. And I'm a woman of action, not just of words, because right now, wouldn't you know, I do believe my son is being exposed to someone mentally damaging, and I am trying my hardest to limit my son's time with that person.
So being that you have literally called me "mental," "delusional," "paranoid," "full of rage," "unstable," "unable to function without (all) 'my meds,'" (not that I'm taking any, but D'oh! maybe that's your point?), and so "full of hate" for you that you believe your son will be marked by it forever as I fill him with my poison, it's not surprising to me that you would shoot down my proposal to not take time away from you, but to evenly swap for your time spent with him.
While not surprising, however, the reason you cited does leave something to be desired in the logic department. For one thing, although you actively verbally encourage vacations for our son, and while they are undoubtedly "in his best interest," you are denying him the opportunity to have a nice one, as God knows, you don't have anyone to go on vacation with, or anywhere to go, or enough time off from work to do it. But that's fine. Let's move on to the fact that I asked you to swap one day for any time of your choosing, and you "chose" a day right next to the swap, defeating my purpose in trying to arrange a few days in a row with our son to be with me. Then when I told you my purpose was to get the two days next to each other, you cited that it would be too long of a time frame to go without seeing your son.
This sounds normal and rational. However, unknown to the casual observer are the facts that (1) Although I encouraged you to pick any time of your choosing, you did not "choose" any other day than the one you suggested right next to the swap day. Then, when I told you my purpose and asked if you might be willing to compromise on another day, you didn't even try to pick anything else close to those days when you could see DS3. Instead, you blocked yourself off from a huge chunk of time, not knowing if those other days close by are available, and then accused me of trying to keep you away from your son. As it turns out, those days wouldn't have been available, but you didn't know that before blaming me. Blame first, ask no questions later. You made it seem like I was denying you almost a whole week with your son, when it wasn't me saying you couldn't see him, it was you not asking. (2) Also unknown to anyone but me are your multiple, in-writing custody proposals, in which, in your entitled, NPD mind that seldom detours into truly rational, logical thought, you gave all the time in the world to me with our son -- screwing yourself out of the only possible times "off" when you could have spent time with him -- all in an effort to gain primary custody. Your only time off, you gave to me. And every second of my time off, you suggested that DS3 be with me. The actual physical hours that you proposed he be with me, compared with you, was 2 to 1 or more. You did this, because you hoped to buy me off and that I wouldn't notice that you only wanted DS3 with you for what you thought were the few, crucial hours that would make you the "primary" parent, and therefore win custody. Under the custody proposal that you yourself proposed, in writing, several times, you gave yourself NO quality time with your son. You would have had him for no weekend time, no fun night time, just grind time before and after school. He never would have been able to spend time with you that was not just a few hours after you got out of work. He never would have been available to visit with his family with you. You also tried to lure me in by telling me that I could have our son on "all" of my vacation time, which is considerable, and all snow days, sick days, his vacations, etc. You would have "given" DS3 to me for 7 days or more at a time.
But now you contend that you can't go more than a few days without seeing the little fella. That he needs to spend quality time with his father. It has nothing to do with simply screwing me, I'm so sure.
Also, whenever you turn down this sked request, or any others I have made, you always cite "not knowing" what will happen in terms of custody at our next hearing, so you never want to do anything because you figure everything's going to change around the bend.
I guess the fact that you've tried, and failed, 3 times now to reverse the primary custody decision that was made on Day 1, hasn't sunk in. And is it possible that you missed the judge actually CHUCKLING at you and your attorney, when, after being denied 3 times now, your attorney insisted that you're STILL gunning for primary custody, despite all indications --- including but not limited to the JUDGE LITERALLY LAUGHING AT YOU --- that nothing major will be happening on that front? ....
Rest assured that yes, I am very "understanding" of your thoughts on this matter. I understand you all too well.
Your "Delusional" Ex Who's Public Enemy No. 1 Because I've Got Your Number