« Last post by natcon1 on Today at 06:13:44 PM »
Hi new here,
I moved home after a longterm relationship break up. It was my only option after been left broke by my ex. Anyway my parents are aging, both suffered strokes over past 2 years. So moving home was beneficial all round.
My father has always been mentally unwell, has been physically, verbally and emotionally abusive to my mother foremost and my siblings also over many years. He has been institutionalized after an incident in a hospital where he went ballistic and smashed doors and broke a staff members wrist.
His age is now contributing to his mentally and cognitive decline. I am now carer for my mother. I cook for both of them and a sibling, I clean, grocery shop, pay bills, take my mom to day care twice a week and to hairdresser etc. I work part time too from home.
This evening whilst feeling totally exhausted after a day of hospital appts, grocery shopping,cleaning the house, cooking etc My mom walked into the kitchen unaided which she isnt allowed to do. She does it anyway because she also has dementia so she forgets. My dad sat there and didnt help and when i said it to him that I was cooking and couldnt be in both rooms at the same time, he went for me.
3 days in a row he has been there when my mum decided to come downstairs on her own, he saw her and did nothing, he said its my job to do it, totally being a dick, knowing im doing something else and a little help would be great.
He is driving me insane, I feel like i am losing my mind. Im so overwhelmed and tired. I hate him so much. He has never been a father other than working to put food on the table for which we should be grateful of course. At times he with held our food and we went without for days forcing my mother to beg others for money. He takes advice from outsiders because he pretends he is the victim and they see us as the bad people.
I really dont ever want to speak to him again but living in his home is a nightmare but i have to be here now for my mom. He is a horrible evil man. I feel like im been driven insane.