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Self-Loathing - An extreme hatred of one's own self, actions or one's ethnic or demographic background.


Self-Loathing is also known as "Autophobia" or Self-Hatred". Self-loathing is a thought pattern where individuals believe they are inferior, bad, worthless, unlovable, or incompetent.

Self-Loathing is one of the central characteristics of people who suffer from Avoidant Personality Disorder. Self-Loathing is also a common occurrence among other personality disorders - particularly Borderline Personality Disorder.

Self-Loathing is sometimes linked to self-harm and suicidal behaviors in people who suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder.

Self-Loathing is sometimes described in more socially acceptable language as a "lack of self-esteem" or "stinking thinking". Self-Loathing is also known as Autophobia.

Self-Loathing falls into two common categories

  1. Hatred of one's own self, actions and characteristics
  2. Rejection of one's demographic origin - such as ethnic origin, religious orientation, nationality, gender or sexual orientation.

Self-Loathing is common among people who grew up in an unsupportive family environment where there was child abuse, neglect, emotional trauma or chronic criticism.

Symptoms of self-loathing include chemical dependency, alcohol & drug abuse, self-harm, self-destructive promiscuity, fits of rage and dissociation.

Self-loathing may be intermittent and may be suddenly triggered by disappointments, struggles, painful memories or anxiety about the future. These triggers can create an overwhelming flood of feelings of hopelessness, worthlessness and powerlessness in an individual who suffers from a personality disorder - which can lead to self-destructive behaviors, emotional withdrawal or aggressive behaviors towards loved ones and family members.

Examples of Self-Loathing:

  • "Nobody loves me"
  • "Things will never get any better."
  • "I'm useless. I always screw everything up."
  • "He/she could never really love the real me."

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If you suspect you may have a family member or loved-one who suffers from a personality disorder, we encourage you to learn all you can and surround yourself with support as you learn how to cope.

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