Small step forward . . .

[alliematt]

I got up on Saturday morning and realized that I'd been telling myself a lot of lies.  The biggest ones are that no one likes me and everyone lies.

It's not true that no one likes me.  I have plenty of people who like me.  It's true that not everyone will like me (that's just a fact of life.)  It's also true that the vast majority of people in the world don't even know that I exist. 

With the business of "everyone lies", I don't want to be paranoid and not believe anyone.  What I want is a healthy skepticism.  It's tough to dig through what is true and what is not in this day and age of information overload. 

[Dee]

Good for you.  It isn't all black and white.  That is something I struggle with.

[sanmagic7]

wonderful realizations.  i've struggled mightily with not having everyone like me.  i felt like a failure because of it, of the worst kind. 

it's good to have those realizations bring us into reality.  i know now i'm not a failure, that having everyone like me is an impossibility.  i've learned that thru my narc/misogynist ex, who hated me just because i was a woman, and my narc daughter, who hated me because i had another baby and took some of her attention away.  whew!  hard to battle those reasonings!

personally, i think it's a big step forward, at least it was for me.  what a huge relief.  it looks big to me, feels big to me.  at any rate, congrats to you, alliematt.  well done!