So I had an encounter with an N in full blown N rage at me and wow, not at all the way to start one's day. Normally this would have triggered me but because it was so over the top I knew it was something called DARVO. Deny, attack, reverse victim and offender. In other words making me the offender and themselves the victim. Definitely not called for and the whole attack was rather appalling. No effort or desire to try and work out the conflict on their part so I am now No Contact with the person. There's absolutely no point in trying, it will just bring more abuse.
It appears I do have more knowledge and skills around dealing with N's than I thought. I thank Out of the FOG for that as they have a toolbox of ways to manage N's and the tools do work. There's DARVO but also JADE; don't justify, argue, defend or explain to an N because it just keeps you on the hook and they will keep on in fight mode no matter what.
Anyway, note to self - stay as far away as possible from N's.
It appears I do have more knowledge and skills around dealing with N's than I thought. I thank Out of the FOG for that as they have a toolbox of ways to manage N's and the tools do work. There's DARVO but also JADE; don't justify, argue, defend or explain to an N because it just keeps you on the hook and they will keep on in fight mode no matter what.
Anyway, note to self - stay as far away as possible from N's.